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Friday, April 24, 2009
Question:
As a Saudi (or Arab) guy with a kind of open mindness (if you will), would you mind if a girl approached you because she liked you?
oo oo i conducted such survey, and most answers were "yes, as long as she doesnt ask out every guy she sees" I guess she must limit herself to One every 3 years? lol
Haha, well I suppose that was quite obvious, but I mean a guy you just met wouldnt know that. I'm just wondering, what is acceptable these days? Would a guy jump to the conclusion that you were easy straight away? ... but I guess that depends on the guy, mmm.
it kinda depends on the guy.. but i for one i'm all for a girl making the first move... does our little Philyra have a little crush on someone...?? *of course my voice was turning to a high pitch squeal for the added drama*
I also say it depends on the guy. personally, i don't see anything wrong with it. I mean, my image of her won't be affected by this at all. i see it as a plus actually.
There are guys who sniff these kind things a mile away! a simple hint, and he will know. others, you will have to spell it for them word by word so they can get it through their gullible thick heads. <_< bettawfeeg !
oh no Philyra, I meant to say that among my community and friends, its accepted for a woman to ask a guy out as long as there is some sort of established connection. for example the cross each other at the office lift every once in a while, or if they met in a get together between close friends. In my personal opinion, I dont find it acceptable for a man or a woman to ask me on a date from out of the blue. I wouldn't feel safe to consider talking to a complete stranger.
I think if a girl asks me out that means she likes me very much, which all girls do! :-p But I wouldn't mind it really, if the girl takes the "1st step" ... it's kinda flattering actually...
3eeb! and even if he's okay with it at first, if things dont work out, believe me it will come up that u made the first move and he will exxagerate it and make it sound like u were desperate or that your a slut. *IM NOT SAYING ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS* I don't condone dating anyway, it's a stupid replacment for sth that is in Islam *I KNOW TALKING ABOUT ISLAM IS A GENERALIZATION THAT THE ARAB WORLD IS ALL MUSLIM*, In Islam you can propose to someone (KHOTBA) and it's not like its some kind of binding contract! if things don't work out you can call things off, and you get to meet each other and hang out. Anyway I think it's too much of a hassle in Saudi.
AND!!!! in ISLAM a woman can PROPOSE TO A MAN!! (LIKE ELSAYEDA KHADEJA AND THE PROPHET MOHAMED P.B.U.H)BS PEOPLE DON'T PRACTICE ISLAM THE WAY IT IS MEANT TO BE. LILASAF.
i dont really agree with u..imagine if u got engaged to someone and u didnt get on so u called it off....how many times do u do that and it remains acceptable...not for long i think. I dont think theres anything wrong with the whole dating scene as long as you respect yourself, and your beliefs... I think to say ppl dont practise islam "the way its meant to be" is a generalisation. Everyone has their own interpretations as long as they follow what they believe and what they believe is right. Its not other peoples expectations thats important its your own justifications and your own standards thats what matters x
oo oo i conducted such survey, and most answers were "yes, as long as she doesnt ask out every guy she sees"
ReplyDeleteI guess she must limit herself to One every 3 years? lol
Haha, well I suppose that was quite obvious, but I mean a guy you just met wouldnt know that.
ReplyDeleteI'm just wondering, what is acceptable these days? Would a guy jump to the conclusion that you were easy straight away?
... but I guess that depends on the guy, mmm.
it kinda depends on the guy.. but i for one i'm all for a girl making the first move... does our little Philyra have a little crush on someone...?? *of course my voice was turning to a high pitch squeal for the added drama*
ReplyDeleteAhahaha.. Maybe :D
ReplyDeleteI also say it depends on the guy. personally, i don't see anything wrong with it. I mean, my image of her won't be affected by this at all. i see it as a plus actually.
ReplyDeleteThere are guys who sniff these kind things a mile away! a simple hint, and he will know. others, you will have to spell it for them word by word so they can get it through their gullible thick heads. <_<
bettawfeeg !
oh no Philyra,
ReplyDeleteI meant to say that among my community and friends, its accepted for a woman to ask a guy out as long as there is some sort of established connection. for example the cross each other at the office lift every once in a while, or if they met in a get together between close friends.
In my personal opinion, I dont find it acceptable for a man or a woman to ask me on a date from out of the blue. I wouldn't feel safe to consider talking to a complete stranger.
Eramsurvivor:
ReplyDeleteHaha, agreed! Thanks for taking the time to reply =)
Anon-
I didnt mean a complete stranger haha.. Someone you already know or have met recently :)
I think if a girl asks me out that means she likes me very much, which all girls do! :-p
ReplyDeleteBut I wouldn't mind it really, if the girl takes the "1st step" ... it's kinda flattering actually...
interesting question lol :)
ReplyDelete3eeb!
ReplyDeleteand even if he's okay with it at first, if things dont work out, believe me it will come up that u made the first move and he will exxagerate it and make it sound like u were desperate or that your a slut. *IM NOT SAYING ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS* I don't condone dating anyway, it's a stupid replacment for sth that is in Islam *I KNOW TALKING ABOUT ISLAM IS A GENERALIZATION THAT THE ARAB WORLD IS ALL MUSLIM*, In Islam you can propose to someone (KHOTBA) and it's not like its some kind of binding contract! if things don't work out you can call things off, and you get to meet each other and hang out. Anyway I think it's too much of a hassle in Saudi.
AND!!!! in ISLAM a woman can PROPOSE TO A MAN!! (LIKE ELSAYEDA KHADEJA AND THE PROPHET MOHAMED P.B.U.H)BS PEOPLE DON'T PRACTICE ISLAM THE WAY IT IS MEANT TO BE. LILASAF.
ReplyDeletei dont really agree with u..imagine if u got engaged to someone and u didnt get on so u called it off....how many times do u do that and it remains acceptable...not for long i think. I dont think theres anything wrong with the whole dating scene as long as you respect yourself, and your beliefs...
ReplyDeleteI think to say ppl dont practise islam "the way its meant to be" is a generalisation. Everyone has their own interpretations as long as they follow what they believe and what they believe is right. Its not other peoples expectations thats important its your own justifications and your own standards thats what matters
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I like what anon number 2 had to say, she or he has a point.
ReplyDeleteI suppose another post is in order.